When I celebrated my birthday in November, I treated myself to an airplane (Cessna) flying lesson. I had learned how to steer a helicopter the year before and thought I would continue the “air” theme. (Some people like to treat themselves to a spa day, while I like to get high :-P.)
Anyway, before taking to the skies, my instructor showed me how to conduct a pre-flight check. (Stay with me!) It was basically like giving the airplane a physical exam—you know, to make sure everything is okay so you won’t die. It was complicated and tedious.
You make sure you have enough fuel. You check the plane’s multiple gauges on the dashboard. You check every surface of the plane’s exterior for cracks, dents, broken lights, and other issues. You check the oil. You even have a system for getting into the plane, buckling up, and adjusting your seat (like in a car). You’re about to fly an intricate piece of machinery.
Yet, flying the damn thing was a piece of cake compared to flying a helicopter. You’re basically on cruise control in comparison. Flying the helicopter was like patting your head and rubbing your belly at the same time, even when you’re flying in a straight line. Both hands and feet stay busy. Flying the airplane was like driving an automatic car, but you change altitude from time to time.
And just like I was able to relate the helicopter lesson to dating, I realized that being an airplane pilot was complicated, but easy, just like relationships.
Complicated how? In relationships, you’re trying to tango with two different personalities, powered by hormones and different upbringings. You learn how to overcome a fight. You learn how to communicate. You learn how to compromise. You learn how to travel together. You deal with each other’s quirks. You ride through ups, downs, and corkscrews like an aerobatics pilot.
And easy how? Healthy relationships require effort instead of work. If you’re compatible and have realistic expectations, then your relationship should work on autopilot. (See what I did there?) You worry less about where the relationship is going. You spend less time overthinking your partner’s actions. You know each other’s routines. You trust each other. You both love yourselves as much as (if not more than) you love each other. Easy!
So, if the time is right and you need a flight path away from relationship turbulence and into a safe landing zone (a corny but necessary metaphor), then fill out the easy form at the bottom of this page to be on your way.