Valentine’s Day is here, and as your relationship coach, I suppose I need to touch on it. Some of you might feel good about the holiday, and your mind is like a Lisa Frank stationery set when you think of the hearts, flowers, and chocolates. Others might feel like that stationery set after a dog pees on it.
If you’re the former, then I encourage you to enjoy the day like a kid in a bounce house! Just remember to have realistic expectations behind that smile.
If you’re the latter, then I want to give you permission to let the holiday pass without a care in the world. Give it little to no weight. That air you just breathed? Hold it in your hands. You can’t see it. That’s how much of a fuck you can give Valentine’s Day.
Honestly, I tend to keep Valentine’s Day in my “dusty drawer of neglected holidays,” along with Flag Day. I don’t care for the expectations that come with the candy hearts and stuffed animals (the latter of which will end up in a landfill, sorry to say). And that’s okay!
In fact, Phillip and I compromised (yes, compromised) on how to celebrate it this year. (He’s a little more into it than I am, which many of you would find sweet.) I said that if he wants to get me flowers, I’d like them in the ground or potted, not dead in a few weeks :-P. We’ll also eat at our favorite reasonably priced restaurant, Islands (where we had one of our first dates). We’ll do that the day after the big day to avoid crowds.
Whatever you do today (or tomorrow), whether or not you’re munching on See’s Candies, I hope it’s spent with your loved ones (and you can count yourself among them). If it’s just you this weekend, then own that shit like a boss and treat yourself like your life ends tomorrow.
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