Some Wisdom from the Almighty Reddit Machine
I’m not a big Redditer, but my partner Phillip consumes the platform like a Harry Potter dementor consumes your soul.
Recently, I was looking over his shoulder while he was using the site and read the following:
“We have two lives, and the second begins when we realize we only have one.”—Confucius
The person who posted that quote asked fellow Redditers when they started living their second life. One person responded with something along the lines of “when my co-worker had a heart attack in the middle of the cafeteria. He was only in his 20s and not even obese.”
Then Phillip showed me another Reddit post a few days later about relationships. Someone asked the Reddit community to name something they experienced in their first relationship that seemed “normal” at the time and then realized it was “weird” or “abnormal” upon entering their next relationship.
Like a studious scientist, I noticed a pattern in many of the responses. Many people unloaded details about anxious and insecure relationships that they later abandoned for more secure ones.
Some spoke about dating people who wanted to know their whereabouts every half-hour as if a tracker had been implanted under their skin. Others spoke about fighting every day. One person said his ex-girlfriend cried all the time, something to which Phillip could relate in a previous relationship. All of these people eventually entered new relationships that bubbled with more trust, communication, and levelheadedness.
These new relationships were, in some way, the second life these folks needed (referring back to the Confucius quote). They started living more harmoniously and with more gratitude because their relationships gave them life.
How much does your current relationship give you life (almost like a defibrillator, speaking of heart attacks)? How much does it suck the life out of you (like a Harry Potter dementor)?
Now, I’m not saying you should find someone to “complete” you. Ick! That’s as gross as spoiled milk! But I am saying that once you love yourself, you should use the law of attraction to find the love you deserve from another—the love that helps make life worth living. (I call another’s love a “glorious bonus.”) Don’t settle for scraps when you can have a heart-healthy meal. (There I go again with the “heart” references!)
Is your current relationship sucking the life out of you instead of giving you life? Are you settling for scraps? If the time is right and you answered “yes” to those questions, then fill out the easy form at the bottom of this page. I’ll get in touch ASAP.
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